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A young lady who refuses to offer her
seat to the aged is definitely an indifferent person; a clown giving fantastic
performance on the stage must be a very happy guy in his life; a super
movie-star’s private life is certainly as brilliant as we what we see on the
screen.
Right?
Willard Gaylin has claimed,“You are what
we (all of us) perceive you to be, not what you think you are,” which in other
words, means that we should make a one-sided judgement of a certain person just
by his behaviors. This viewpoint has obviously fallen into an erroneous zone of
understanding someone completely.
There is an old Chinese saying, “Cats
hide their claws.” That means we may know about a man’s exterior but not his
heart. When walking on the street, how can you know that how many people
passing by wear their masks and costumes, starring their own plays? How can you
know whether they are cruel wolves or not when taking off their thick sheep’s
clothing? I agree with Gaylin that, ignoring someone’s overt behaviours
altogether and choosing to define him by unconscious determinants of behavior
is a distortion, yet I insist that the invisible psychological activities also
count when it comes to judge one’s personality. No one in this world has only
one aspect, we are all polyhedral. Judging one by what we perceive is just an
inadvisable choice.
The world-renowed Austrain neurologist
and the founder of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud believed that one’s personality
consists of three parts: id, ego and superego. “Id” is the most primitive one,
which means natural instincts, the inherent mode of thinking, etc. One of its manifestations
is that when human’s fundamental need of survival comes, one should satisfy it
immediately. Just like the hungry baby keeps crying, ignoring whether his mom
is in trouble or not. It is the Pleasure Principle that dominates the id. “Ego”
is developed from id, which can be defined as “ the selfhood under the
limitation of reality”.The self-consciousness within us has the tendency to
avoid danger, so we will start to warn, control and ban ourselves from doing
something things unethical such as stealing or robbing even though we are
hungry. The last but the paramount one is the “superego”, generally referring
to the personality shown under the combined influences of ethic, social
orientation and so on. It chases perfection and concentrates on “ what I should
do” instead of “what I want to do” or “what I can do”. Only when these three
aspects are kept balanced and concerted can one’s personality develops
healthily. From this we can also draw a conclusion that we are all exposed to
an environment in which our mental state is affected by lots of uncertain
factors, which precludes our behaviors reflecting our real personality. So how can
we judge one simply by his behaviors?!
We may despise the young lady who
doesn’t offer her seat to old people, but is there any probability that she’s
pregnant although it’s hard to be perceived due to her petite figure? Things
alike did happen before. The amusing clown, with his face dyed colorful, laughs
out loud and gives comical performance to entertain others, but actually no one
knows his loneliness. His world is always divided into two parts: one is sunny
and the other is in shadow. And as for the superstar, needless to make any
further comments, we have all already heard too much and got accustomed to
their scandals.
Our eyes will always cheat us. Sometimes
the world we get to know through what we see has been distorted and twisted
greatly, which cannot convey us the truth, nor can it tell us what a person is
really like. What you see is not the real you, at least, not the whole you.
In everyone’s heart there live an angel
and a demon. Whether a man is good or not depends on which part is more
powerful and takes the wind. How you behave also lies on your attitude towards
them. No one is single-sided in personality. We are all polyhedral.